"You do not really mean what you say, my darling. It is of much more consequence that the gra.s.s should grow than that you should go out to play. And it is so silly to complain, when we cannot stop its raining."
"Mamma, I hate this pie."
"Oh! hush, dear! Don"t say so, if you do. You can leave it. You need not eat it. But think how disagreeable it sounds to hear you say such a thing."
"Oh, dear! Oh, dear! I am too cold."
"Yes, dear, I know you are. So is mamma. But we shall not feel any warmer for saying so. We must wait till the fire burns better; and the time will seem twice as long if we grumble."
"Oh, mamma! mamma! My steam-engine is all spoiled. It won"t run. I hate things that wind up!"
"But, my dear little boy, don"t grumble so! What would you think if mamma were to say, "Oh, dear! oh, dear! My little boy"s stockings are full of holes. How I hate to mend stockings!" and, "Oh, dear! oh, dear! My little boy has upset my work-box! I hate little boys"?"
How they look steadily into your eyes for a minute,--the honest, reasonable little souls!--when you say such things to them; and then run off with a laugh, lifted up, for that time, by your fitly spoken words of help.
Oh! if the world could only stop long enough for one generation of mothers to be made all right, what a millennium could be begun in thirty years!
"But, mamma, you are grumbling yourself at me because I grumbled!" says a quick-witted darling not ten years old. Ah! never shall any weak spot in our armor escape the keen eyes of these little ones.
"Yes, dear! And I shall grumble at you till I cure you of grumbling.
Grumblers are the only thing in this world that it is right to grumble at."
"Boys Not Allowed."
It was a conspicuous signboard, at least four feet long, with large black letters on a white ground: "Boys not allowed." I looked at it for some moments in a sort of bewildered surprise: I did not quite comprehend the meaning of the words. At last I understood it. I was waiting in a large railway station, where many trains connect; and most of the pa.s.sengers from the train in which I was were eating dinner in a hotel near by. I was entirely alone in the car, with the exception of one boy, who was perhaps eleven years old. I made an involuntary e.j.a.c.u.l.a.t.i.o.n as I read the words on the sign, and the boy looked around at me.
"Little boy," said I, solemnly, "do you see that sign?"
He turned his head, and, reading the ominous warning, nodded sullenly, but said nothing.
"Boy, what does it mean?" said I. "Boys must be allowed to come into this railway station. There are two now standing in the doorway directly under the sign."
The latent sympathy in my tone touched his heart. He left his seat, and, coming to mine, edged in past me; and, putting his head out of the window, read the sentence aloud in a contemptuous tone. Then he offered me a peanut, which I took; and he proceeded to tell me what he thought of the sign.
"Boys not allowed!" said he. "That"s just the way "tis everywhere; but I never saw the sign up before. It don"t make any difference, though, whether they put the sign up or not. Why, in New York (you live in New York, don"t you?) they won"t even stop the horse-cars for a boy to get on.
n.o.body thinks any thing"ll hurt a boy; but they"re glad enough to "allow"
us when there"s any errands to be done, and"--
"Do you live in New York?" interrupted I; for I did not wish to hear the poor little fellow"s list of miseries, which I knew by heart beforehand without his telling me, having been hopeless knight-errant of oppressed boyhood all my life.
Yes, he "lived in New York," and he "went to a grammar school," and he had "two sisters." And so we talked on in that sweet, ready, trustful talk which comes naturally only from children"s lips, until the "twenty minutes for refreshments" were over, and the choked and crammed pa.s.sengers, who had eaten big dinners in that breath of time, came hurrying back to their seats. Among them came the father and mother of my little friend. In angry surprise at not finding him in the seat where they left him, they exclaimed,--
"Now, where _is_ that boy? Just like him! We might have lost every one of these bags."
"Here I am, mamma," he called out, pleasantly. "I could see the bags all the time. n.o.body came into the car."
"I told you not to leave the seat, sir. What do you mean by such conduct?"
said the father.
"Oh, no, papa," said poor Boy, "you only told me to take care of the bags." And an anxious look of terror came into his face, which told only too well under how severe a _regime_ he lived. I interposed hastily with--
"I am afraid I am the cause of your little son"s leaving his seat. He had sat very still till I spoke to him; and I believe I ought to take all the blame."
The parents were evidently uncultured, shallow people. Their irritation with him was merely a surface vexation, which had no real foundation in a deep principle. They became complaisant and smiling at my first word, and Boy escaped with a look of great relief to another seat, where they gave him a simple luncheon of saleratus gingerbread. "Boys not allowed" to go in to dinner at the Ma.s.sasoit, thought I to myself; and upon that text I sat sadly meditating all the way from Springfield to Boston.
How true it was, as the little fellow had said, that "it don"t make any difference whether they put the sign up or not!" No one can watch carefully any average household where there are boys, and not see that there are a thousand little ways in which the boys" comfort, freedom, preference will be disregarded, when the girls" will be considered. This is partly intentional, partly unconscious. Something is to be said undoubtedly on the advantage of making the boy realize early and keenly that manhood is to bear and to work, and womanhood is to be helped and sheltered. But this should be inculcated, not inflicted; asked, not seized; shown and explained, not commanded. Nothing can be surer than the growth in a boy of tender, chivalrous regard for his sisters and for all women, if the seeds of it be rightly sown and gently nurtured. But the common method is quite other than this. It begins too harshly and at once with a.s.sertion or a.s.sumption.
"Mother never thinks I am of any consequence," said a dear boy to me, the other day. "She"s all for the girls."
This was not true; but there was truth in it. And I am very sure that the selfishness, the lack of real courtesy, which we see so plainly and pitiably in the behavior of the average young man to-day is the slow, certain result of years of just such feelings as this child expressed. The boy has to scramble for his rights. Naturally he is too busy to think much about the rights of others. The man keeps up the habit, and is negatively selfish without knowing it.
Take, for instance, the one point of the minor courtesies (if we can dare to call any courtesies minor) of daily intercourse. How many people are there who habitually speak to a boy of ten, twelve, or fourteen with the same civility as to his sister, a little younger or older?
"I like Miss----," said this same dear boy to me, one day; "for she always bids me good-morning."
Ah! never is one such word thrown away on a loving, open-hearted boy. Men know that safe through all the wear and tear of life they keep far greener the memory of some woman or some man who was kind to them in their boyhood than of the friend who helped or cheered them yesterday.
Dear, blessed, noisy, rollicking, tormenting, comforting Boy! What should we do without him? How much we like, without suspecting it, his breezy presence in the house! Except for him, how would errands be done, chairs brought, nails driven, cows stoned out of our way, letters carried, twine and knives kept ready, lost things found, luncheon carried to picnics, three-year-olds that cry led out of meeting, b.u.t.terflies and birds" nests and birch-bark got, the horse taken round to the stable, borrowed things sent home,--and all with no charge for time?
Dear, patient, busy Boy! Shall we not sometimes answer his questions? Give him a comfortable seat? Wait and not reprove him till after the company has gone? Let him wear his best jacket, and buy him half as many neckties as his sister has? Give him some honey, even if there is not enough to go round? Listen tolerantly to his little bragging, and help him "do" his sums?
With a sudden shrill scream the engine slipped off on a side-track, and the cars glided into the great, grim city-station, looking all the grimmer for its twinkling lights. The ma.s.ses of people who were waiting and the ma.s.ses of people who had come surged toward each other like two great waves, and mingled in a moment. I caught sight of my poor little friend, Boy, following his father, struggling along in the crowd, carrying two heavy carpet-bags, a strapped bundle, and two umbrellas, and being sharply told to "Keep up close there."
"Ha!" said I, savagely, to myself, "doing porters" work is not one of the things which "boys" are "not allowed.""
Half an Hour in a Railway Station.
It was one of those bleak and rainy days which mark the coming of spring on New England sea-sh.o.r.es. The rain felt and looked as if it might at any minute become hail or snow; the air p.r.i.c.ked like needles when it blew against flesh. Yet the huge railway station was as full of people as ever.
One could see no difference between this dreariest of days and the sunniest, so far as the crowd was concerned, except that fewer of the people wore fine clothes; perhaps, also, that their faces looked a little more sombre and weary than usual.
There is no place in the world where human nature shows to such sad disadvantage as in waiting-rooms at railway stations, especially in the "Ladies" Room." In the "Gentlemen"s Room" there is less of that ghastly, apathetic silence which seems only explainable as an interval between two terrible catastrophes. Shall we go so far as to confess that even the unsightly spittoons, and the uncleanly and loquacious fellowship resulting from their common use, seem here, for the moment, redeemed from a little of their abominableness,--simply because almost any action is better than utter inaction, and any thing which makes the joyless, taciturn American speak to his fellow whom he does not know, is for the time being a blessing. But in the "Ladies" Room" there is not even a community of interest in a single bad habit, to break the monotone of weary stillness.
Who has not felt the very soul writhe within her as she has first crossed the threshold of one of these dismal antechambers of journey? Carpetless, dingy, dusty; two or three low sarcophagi of greenish-gray iron in open s.p.a.ces, surrounded by blue-lipped women, in different angles and att.i.tudes of awkwardness, trying to keep the soles of their feet in a perpendicular position, to be warmed at what they have been led to believe is a steam-heating apparatus; a few more women, equally listless and weary-looking, standing in equally difficult and awkward positions before a counter, holding pie in one hand, and tea in a cup and saucer in the other, taking alternate mouthfuls of each, and spilling both; the rest wedged bolt upright against the wall in narrow part.i.tioned seats, which only need a length of perforated foot-board in front to make them fit to be patented as the best method of putting whole communities of citizens into the stocks at once. All, feet warmers, pie-eaters, and those who sit in the red-velvet stocks, wear so exactly the same expression of vacuity and fatigue that they might almost be taken for one gigantic and unhappy family connection, on its way to what is called in newspapers "a sad event." The only wonder is that this stiffened, desiccated crowd retains vitality enough to remember the hours at which its several trains depart, and to rise up and shake itself alive and go on board. One is haunted sometimes by the fancy that some day, when the air in the room is unusually bad and the trains are delayed, a curious phenomenon will be seen. The petrifaction will be carried a little farther than usual, and, when the bell rings and the official calls out, "Train made up for Babel, Hinnom, and way stations?" no women will come forth from the "Ladies"
Room," no eye will move, no muscle will stir. Husbands and brothers will wait and search vainly for those who should have met them at the station, with bundles of the day"s shopping to be carried out; homes will be desolate; and the history of rare fossils and petrifactions will have a novel addition. Or, again, that, if some sudden convulsion of Nature, like those which before now have buried wicked cities and the dwellers in them, were to-day to swallow up the great city of New Sodom in America, and keep it under ground for a few thousand years, nothing in all its circuit would so puzzle the learned archaeologists of A.D. 5873 as the position of the skeletons in these same waiting-rooms of railway stations.
Thinking such thoughts as these, sinking slowly and surely to the level of the place, I waited, on this bleak, rainy day, in just such a "Ladies"
Room" as I have described. I sat in the red-velvet stocks, with my eyes fixed on the floor.
"Please, ma"am, won"t you buy a basket?" said a cheery little voice. So near me, without my knowing it, had the little tradesman come that I was as startled as if the voice had spoken out of the air just above my head.