Chapter 267: You Are Yourself First
Translator: Nyoi-Bo Studio Editor: Nyoi-Bo Studio
Lu An opened his sleepy eyes. The moment he looked up and saw Jin Nian, he immediately smiled.
“Darling, you’re awake. Does your body still hurt?”
Jin Nian shook her head. “Before I gave birth, I heard that it was very painful, but it didn’t hurt for too long. I felt that it was very smooth. Now, I’m thinking that we can have a second child in the future.”
Lu An’s expression froze for a moment, and he immediately shook his head. “Baby, let’s not think about this for now. You almost scared me to death when you gave birth to one child. If you want a second child, you’ll be killing me.” Jin Nian burst out laughing. “I think it’s fine.”
Lu An’s heart was still pounding. When he thought of that scene, his heart could not help but beat violently.
Although Jin Nian’s birth was very smooth, every delivery was risky. Lu An had checked the information before. The most fatal condition was called amniotic fluid embolism. Once this happened, it was very likely that it would be impossible to save her.
When Lu An thought of the possibility of Jin Nian leaving him, he was determined not to have a second child.
“Baby, we’re not giving birth again! We’re not giving birth!”
Jin Nian hugged Lu An and smiled. She knew what Lu An was thinking. She was just joking about having a second child.
The next morning, the child was brought to the ward and could be breastfed.
Before this, Lu An was afraid that Jin Nian wouldn’t like to breastfeed, so he prepared a lot of milk powder.
The doctor said that breastfeeding was the best because breast milk contained more nutrients and was more conducive to the child’s growth. However, no one forced Jin Nian to do so. Whether she chose to breastfeed or not was entirely up to her.
No one could force Jin Nian to do anything. As long as she didn’t want to do it, she didn’t have to do it. This was the confidence that Lu An had given her.
In the beginning, Jin Nian didn’t choose to breastfeed the baby immediately. Instead, she let the baby drink the milk powder first. When it was almost noon, Jin Nian’s relatives came to visit.
Her aunt looked at the milk powder and milk bottle on the table. She spoke first. “Niannian, you must breastfeed. Breastfeeding is good for the baby. No matter how good the milk powder is, it can’t compare to breast milk.”
The other relatives began to agree. “Other people will more or less breastfeed their babies for six months before weaning. You’re also a mother. How can you bear to ignore your child?”
When Jin Nian heard what everyone said, she felt a lot of pressure. She was worried if she was a qualified mother.
If she couldn’t even give the child the most basic breast milk, wouldn’t she be too selfish?
Lu An listened from the side and almost couldn’t help but chase everyone out. What did his wife’s willingness to breastfeed have to do with other people? What right did they have to lecture him?
Xie He saw that Lu An’s expression was not good. She quickly pulled Lu An back and whispered, “Calm down. Don’t embarra.s.s Jin Nian.”
If Lu An really scolded these relatives and drove them away, Jin Nian would be the one who would be embarra.s.sed. Therefore, she let them say whatever they wanted and just treated it as nonsense.
After the relatives left, Lu An immediately said to Jin Nian, “Niannian, you have to remember that you are yourself first. Then, you are the child’s mother. Before you do anything, you have to consider yourself first, not the child.”
Motherly love was a woman’s instinct. Of course, it could also be kidnapped by secular morality. Who said that a mother had to give her all?
Most people think that the responsibility of taking care of the child should be the mother’s, so shouldn’t the father bear half of the responsibility?
In fact, the child’s mother had suffered the pain of childbirth, so the child’s father should bear more.
Lu An continued, “If you don’t want breast milk, you can totally replace it with milk powder. Don’t be bound by any external comments.”
Many mothers’ postnatal depression came from all kinds of voices from the outside world. Now, Jin Nian had just felt a little pressure when Lu An resolved it.
The feeling of being understood, cared for, and cared for was too good. It made Jin Nian feel that marrying Lu An was the happiest thing in the world.
Of course, it wasn’t just this matter. After the child was born, Lu An did many things himself, including changing the child’s diapers.
Although there were nurses and nannies doing this, Lu An still wanted to give it a try. In Lu An’s opinion, this was what he should do as a father.
After moving to the confinement center, Jin Nian slept almost every day. Her body was weak after giving birth, and she almost didn’t have a good night’s sleep during the later stages of pregnancy. Now, she wanted to make up for all the sleep she owed.
On the other hand, Lu An spent most of his time with Jin Nian every day. He would only leave for a while if there was something that needed to be handled at the company. He also reminded the nurses and nannies not to disturb Jin Nian’s sleep..