The malady Verbomania is spreading rapidly. What"s that? You have never heard of Verbomania? Well, then, it"s taken from verbosus, the Latin word meaning abounding in words, the using of more words than is necessary. Mania, also Latin, means to rage--excessive or unreasonable desire; therefore, Verbomania is the excessive desire to use more words than are necessary.
There is too much talk nowadays and too little thinking. Some persons start their gab carburetors and they talk and talk mechanically, without any effort on any thought, just like walking, the motion just goes by itself.
Scientists have suggested that perhaps too much talking without thinking is a disease. I don"t see why there is any perhaps about it. Disease is an unnatural condition, or function out of its natural order of working.
We know we can sit down and run ideas through our brain without words and we can use a lot of words without ideas.
You have read whole pages in a book without receiving an idea. One can rattle off words and not have ideas. When the fountain of words flows in a desert of ideas, it"s Verbomania.
People in all walks of life have the disease; they talk together too much without any reason other than to take up time or make themselves at ease.
Pink teas, receptions and society functions are great rookeries for these Verbomania birds to gather and indulge in their gabfest.
The pianist through long practice is able to play a difficult composition without thinking about it; it"s automatic; it"s habit in action.
The society dodo bird is just as dexterous in spinning words without thought, as the pianist with his difficult piece.
Our rapid mode of living, our conventions and customs are responsible for much of the Verbomania.
I should like to take my Dictophone to a fussy "afternoon" and record the word evacuations, the footless conversation, the forced pleasantries, the set sentences that mingle into a hum and buzz. A wilderness of words in a barrenness of ideas.
This useless abuse of the use of speech makes headaches, weariness, worry, unrest; it saps strength, lowers pep, and lessens resistance.
The cure for Verbomania is to keep away from these b.u.t.terfly buzz bees; put the clothes-pin of caution on your lips; spend more time alone with your thoughts. Nourish your idea plants that have been starved; prune your word plants.
Read the first few chapters of "PEP," particularly the chapter in the book about solitude and sizing up things.
Don"t expose yourself to the crowds where the Verbomaniacs gather. The disease is contagious; it"s easy to acquire and hard to retire.
These are ideas put in type to convey a truth for the benefit of all who read these lines, and it is some truth, too.
HOME
Don"t Mistake a House for a Home
Love builds homes, gold builds houses. The home has a mongrel dog which is called Prince, and all the family love it. The house had a pedigreed bull pup that is kept in the barn.
There is all the difference between the family which has a home and the family which has a house.
In houses we find broken hearts, worry, nervous prostration, because there is idleness, artificiality and aimlessness. In homes we find warm hearts, happiness and love, because those in the home have natural, helpful occupation.
In the house is cold reserve; the occupants read when compelled to stay in doors; they grow crabbed and cross and get into a state of habitual dumbness and selfishness.
In the home there is unselfishness, thoughtfulness, and love expressed.
Meal time is joy time; it"s the get-together period of smiling faces.
In the house the breakfast table is merely a lunch station in the hurried trip from the bedroom to the office.
The sensitive wife of the house gets stinging remarks that abide with her after the lord and master of the house has departed.
In the home the family gets up plenty early enough, songs and jokes, kisses and love pats are found, the family is on time, and there is happiness all around.
Homes are sweet, because love is present. Houses built by gold are just hotels.
I"ve noticed the difference when a friend invites me to come to his home or his house; the word he uses, home or house, indicates to me what I will find when I go there.
In the house I meet a maid or butler at the door. I see conventional furniture, conventional rooms. I am shown into a conventional waiting room, and I wait conventionally for the hostess to come forward with a stiff backbone, a forced smile, and a languid hand shake.
When I go to a home built with love, I find a tidy dressed wife at the door, rosy children, and I get a warm old-fashioned hand clasp, and a beaming smiling face that spells welcome.
And the dinner, that too, tells the difference between the "depend-on-the-cook" housewife and the "wife-who-is-the-boss" home.
At the house is formality and frigidity; at the home is ease and enjoyment. The children of the home make breaks and we love them for it; it"s natural instinct and frankness.
In the house is worry; in the home is happiness.
Verily there"s a difference in the atmosphere of the house built with gold and the home built with love; one is worthless existence, the other worth-while living.
DIET RULES
Seven Sensible Simple Suggestions on Eating
I haven"t time in this book to give reasons or show proofs for everything I suggest. I have explained much in detail regarding the matter of food, thought, habit and exercise in PEP, but I want right here to give you a few definite, short, positive, helpful rules that will pay you most wonderful dividends in health and happiness.
First--Drink two or three gla.s.ses of warm, not hot water the first thing when you arise.
Second--Repeat this resolve as you are drinking the water, "I will be pleasant this morning until ten o"clock and the rest of the day will take care of itself."
Third--Walk to your office or place of business unless it is over four miles, in which case walk the first three miles and ride the remainder of the distance.
Fourth--Eat one or two apples every day, and do not insult nature"s proper adjustment by peeling the apple. You want the skin because it has things in it you need for your body, and especially for your brain, and you need especially the roughage the skin gives.
Fifth--Spend eight or nine hours a day in bed. I belong to the sixty-three hour club; that means nine hours a day rest, seven days in a week, which is sixty-three hours. If through business travel or other circ.u.mstances I stay up late one or two nights a week, I balance books before the week is up by taking a rest on Sunday afternoon or going to bed earlier one or two nights.
Sixth--Don"t stay in bed Sunday morning. It will make you tired, loggy, stupid and cross. Get up Sunday, say, a half hour or an hour later than week days. Later in the day take a nap if you wish.
Seventh--Spend fifteen minutes just before going to bed in quiet, relaxed solitude. This is the time to slow down your tension, relax your muscles and soothe the nerves. These rules you can easily remember and if you follow them as I hope you will, the red blood will course in your veins and joy will be in your countenance and the halo of happiness will be around your face.