In the affairs of life, as in the affairs of love, where men be concerned, it is upon her personality that she relies, not upon her speech whether written or uttered.
Her personal appearance is to a woman, what his personal honor is to a man: it must be immaculate; constant with the fashion of the hour; and strictly in accordance with her or his status in society. Accordingly,
Dress and demeanor--these form the code of feminine ethics. Even
Deception on the part of a woman is merely diplomacy;
Women deceive only be cause man is too blind to see. That is to say,
Since man in past ages has never allowed woman either freedom of action or frankness of speech, it is not to be expected of her that she should be all at once an adept in their use.--To her credit be it said that,
Generally a woman deceives only n order to arouse or to retain the admiration of man. For example,
Many a woman has surrept.i.tiously made love to the man--and few are the men who have detected it.
Why this woman fascinates all who come within the sphere of their influence, and that women, does not, no earthly sage will ever know. As well ask what makes one man a Napoleon, another a poltroon. So, too,
It is impossible for a woman to say "I will be loved," as it is for a man to say "I will be obeyed."--Perhaps
Love and Power are divine miracles.
(At the risk of treading on delicate ground, ground off which I shall be hooted by the modern woman, I venture to say that)
The idea that a woman is the property of the man of her choice, rail as it as the woman may, has not yet been ousted from the feminine mind--and heart. Indeed,
So firmly implanted in the feminine breast is the idea of the ownership of her by the man, that it is to the man who a.s.sumes and exercises ownership that she clings. This is why
A woman easily changes her allegiance; since,
Allegiance, to a woman, means loyalty to the man who a.s.sumes and exercises ownership over her:
Let a man who a fractional part of a second evince the shadow of a doubt of his proprietorship--at once he undermines a woman"s allegiance.
Consequently,
It is folly for men to express amazement at the ease with which a woman will transfer herself and her affections.
A woman will transfer herself bodily over and over again, but only because the previous owner lightly esteemed, or weakly maintained, his ownership. As a matter of fact
In pristine days woman was, naturally and necessarily, the property, the chattel, of the man: marriage was not then a matrimonial syndicate of two: marriage meant that a woman sought a provider, a supporter, a defender; the man a mate for his delight, his comfort, and his solace, a keeper op is cave or hut, a mother and nurse for his heirs. And provision, support, and defense, being, in pristine days, matters of strength, prowess, or cunning, naturally and necessarily pristine man 65 gained him and kept him a mate by strength, prowess, or cunning; he regarded that mate as his by right of force, not as a partner in a compact. And
The most complicated of modern communities has no whit altered the relationship of man to mate, conceal though it may the origin and history of marriage. Finally,
No woman at the bottom of her heart has any objection to being owned.
Indeed (though no woman would say it, a man may),
Every woman at the bottom of her heart delights to be owned, and tacitly and secretly seeks the man who she thinks will glory in that ownership and keep his property safe--not only from material harms, but from temptations to changes of ownership. In which last little fact lies a curious truth.
Women like to be defended against themselves. In this little matter men and women differ: That any other man should dare for one instant to covet or alienate (5) that most precious of his possessions, his mate, --nothing rouses to a higher pitch man"s unappeasable wrath than this;
Against the man so daring, a woman"s wrath is never roused: rather she regards him as one having discernment, and his daring is a commendable compliment to herself. In fine, and in short,
Allegiance, to a man, on the part of a woman, means, in her eyes, loyalty to him who properly exercises the right of ownership. In simple truth,
A woman gives herself to a man: to the man who proves himself worthy the gift, she is true.
And this is why women, all women, even the New ones, love being petted and admired and made much of all their lives: this but proves the possession of the gift to be appreciated. Besides,
The male is the dominant animal--not necessarily in his cave or his hut, --by no means, but in the stress and struggle of life; and women tacitly (though never openly) look up to and admire this dominance, even when exercised over themselves; since THIS, in turn, proves the masterfulness, the worth, of the man; albeit sometimes they rebel against it if carried to far. At least,
Unless a man continues to exhibit his appreciation of the gift by word as well as by deed, the woman is apt to imagine that that appreciation is on the wane.
(5) How women must laugh in their sleeves at the fact that one man may sue another in a court of law for "alienating his wife"s affections"!
IV. On Love
"Amore che muove il sole e l"altre stelle."
--Dante
The beginning, middle, and end of love--is a sigh.
All things point to the infinite; and love more than all things else.
Complex as is the character of love, here are two things which love always does: always it
"Refines the thoughts And heart enlarges;"
--Milton
and,
Love dyes all things a cerulean hue. (What a pity it is not a fast color!)
Love is the most antimonial of emotions: it worships, yet it will not stop at sacrilege; it will build about its object a temple of adoration, then desecrate the fane; it will give all, yet ruthlessly seize everything; it delights in pleasing, yet it sometimes wittingly wounds; its ineffable tenderness often merges into an inclemency extraordinary; --symbol of universal duality, it is at once demonical and angelic.