"Words are pale shadows of forgotten names. As names have power, words have power. Words can light fires in the minds of men. Words can wring tears from the hardest hearts."— Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind
Words can build, words can also destroy. I have heard many say things like "I lost hope concerning the matter after I heard Mrs A or B said it can"t be done."
Interesting I must say. Some will also tell you that words spoken to them in form of curses in the past are responsible for their current unpleasant situation. This may be true at times if you like to believe such things.
I understand what a curse is, don"t get me wrong and I know how it has brought many to their knees in the past. I only have a problem with people attributing some self-inflicted problems needlessly to the resultant effect of a curse. Trust human beings to always pa.s.s the blame regardless.
The truth is whether you like it or not people will say positive or negative things to you or about you to others and there"s no way to put a stop to it no matter how nice or good you think you are. What is important is for you to know how to react to things people say. It is something you must learn how to do very quickly, especially if you plan to make your impact felt in any little way in this global community of ours.
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I have since found out that some people can"t function properly without having their way, they say things to rile you or destabilise you psychologically so they can get what they want. Some others think they are very smart, they use words to manipulate others to get what they want. These people have mastered this art over time so there"s absolutely nothing you can do to stop them. You just need to learn how to react positively to things they say.
A few years ago, I came in contact with someone who had mastered this art perfectly, using it to his own advantage, when he wants to have his way or drive home a point, he will send you a text message filled with emotions to subdue you, it worked initially for some time because I always wanted things to work perfectly between us and I thought that style of his was a genuine means of communicating better in situations like that. Not until later I found out it was his own potent weapon to dominate, did I change my mode of reaction to messages from him.
One of the major signs of maturity is the ability to stay calm and focussed regardless of words thrown at you via electronic or physical means. One of the qualities of a leader is to not flip every now and then when certain words are thrown at him or her. It gets worse when a.s.sociates and friends know that it doesn"t take more than a few words to set you off, they will exploit the opportunity over and over again.
I remember those days in secondary school, some students had a terrible habit of making others go crazy. They employ every means to bring out the worst in others with words they use against them. It was never difficult for them to use abusive words to describe one"s parents and siblings, knowing fully well that those things meant a lot to young students. They always had a derogatory alias for everyone. The perfect way to keep them off your case was to press the "IGNORE" b.u.t.ton. It always worked magic. If you dare try to engage them pound for pound, they can only bring the worst out of you, it was always a case of fighting with a pig in the mud anytime you try to reply them.
How Do You Conquer Words?
People mean different things to you definitely, by now you should have been able to sieve the good from the bad and from the ugly over time. When words come from the good and genuine people you take your time to give a detailed explanation hoping they understand your position over the issue at hand. If it"s from mischief makers or unrepentant critics or compet.i.tors you just ignore, you just take a walk, and it"s as simple as that. Also remember people will always say things to have their way or to display intellectual superiority, and the most effective weapon over the ages to achieve this is what they say to you.
If you wish to have a firm grip over your affairs, and to also enjoy bliss in your life journey, you must know how to overcome the urge to react to words, written or spoken it doesn"t matter, it"s the same. When you get that nasty text message, take a deep breath before you reply in the same measure, resist the urge to trade insults with anyone, always remember it"s a ploy to conquer you emotionally.
Never lose your focus because of words. Keep your eye on the goal, once you conquer words, you can conquer every other forms of dirt thrown by people to deter you from getting there!
I wish you all the best in your endeavours.