Sometimes it"s so hard to leave the past behind. So you always end up caring a part of it with you to the present. Which is not neccessary a bad thing.It"s great if we get to learn from the past experiences and apply that in the present to improve our future. My mom says that you will always regret more the decisions we took than those we didn"t and up until now I agree with her.
But you see she also says that you can never get away from what you fear most, it may be because we focus so much of that thing that we somehow eventually end up making it happen.
But even those tough moment have their purpose, helping you grow to be a better person, that depending of course on how you handle them.
Life can be so complicated sometimes, remember when we were kids and it was so easy for us to make friends? We would just march to that person and say we once ate an ant and we would be best friends instantly.?
Now is really difficult to do that because with time we lost our hope in humanity to much and we do not believe anymore in unconditional love or selfless acts, we live our lives in caution and doubt. Which is not healthy at all for our heart, because ironically we are so cynical and cautious trying to defend and protect our hearts that we hurt ourselves even more. Try to think like this, if we would live our whole life in a bubble trying to always stay away from viruse, dust and other dangers, we will end up sicker facing the real world than if we would"ve been exposed to those "dangers". We have to understand that even if we get sick sometimes and we feel ill, slt least we build a strong immune system that will be able to fight better in the future when facing all sorts of situations.
What I am trying to say is that we have to work as well on our heart"s immune system. And let it develop and get stronger.
And of course as you cannot call yourself healthy is you have an infection in your body, you also cannot say you are alright if you have a lot of anger and resentment build up in there. I am the kind of person that gets upset and irritated pretty easily, but I also forget easily and I never hold grudges. I got to learn that those harder to love need it most, and from that point of view I guess I am a pretty happy and loved person. I have my family, my pets and my friends who are always there to support me and give me a hand.
So I cannot say I have a bad life, but there are people who are so miserable and sad that they forget how they really are. For example, if I do not sleep well and if I do not eat I get really grumpy and irritated. Of course, this is a light example, sleep and hunger aren"t the worst things that could happen to us. We aldo need food for the soul, which consists in love and care, and if we do not get enough of it our heart can get grumpy too.
But I think first we have to know how love feels to know how to give it back. Because if we do not have a good example of love around us and a good role model to show us how it"s really done it can get harder and harder with time.
Practice makes learning something new easier.
Let"s take forgiving for example. First of all we also make mistakes sometimes, and we expect forgiveness, but first we have to learn how to give it. Holding a grudge or planning revenges will only make our lives more difficult and bitter. And imagine this, we all have a river of energy inside us. That river helps the forest inside us grow and if that river gets dry from to much hate actually we will be the one to suffer the most.
I guess what I am trying to say is that we should try to look through the eyes of a stranger more often, because you know it"s easier to love if the world doesn"t hate you. So if we want to set a good exsmple we should start by letting these toxic thoughts go as far as possible and open our hearts to positivity and kindness.
So guys if we want the world around us to change we should start to se a good example ourselves by giving another chance to those that once hurt us. Because this is not only about being the bigger person, it is about proving that there can be a selfless act of kindness and a warm smile to welcome even the people that once hurt us.
Because we never really get to know a person and first impressions can be wrong most of the times.