Long hair never made true poets.
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Obesity always carries weight.
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Look after your manners and your friends will look after themselves.
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Cranks of a feather fight together.
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All is not toil that blisters.
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_To Sea Anglers_:
A live catch is no better than a dead fish.
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Better a place in the sun than a plaice on a hook.
PETER PIPER.
HEALTHY HOMEMAKING.
XXI. HIRED HELP (_continued_).
What is the homemaker of limited means, who must have some help, to do under present conditions? Well, meantime, there is only the young "general" for her, either the "daily girl" or one who "lives in." Of the two I prefer the "daily girl," when she can be obtained. And the younger she can be obtained, other things equal, the better. She will have fewer bad habits to overcome. Some housewives object to the daily girl on the score that she may bring dirt or infection from her home, and also because she can seldom arrive early enough to help get breakfast. But a little management overnight can reduce the labour of breakfast getting to a minimum, and if the "outings" of the girl who lives in are as frequent as they ought to be the risk of her carrying infection, etc., will always apply.
The "daily girl" has definitely fixed hours of work and the same chance of enjoying a measure of home life, of keeping her friends and individual interests, as the typist or factory worker whose lot the domestic servant so often envies; while her employers are not faced with the alternatives of condemning a young fellow-creature to a solitary existence or forcing an unreal companionship which is equally irksome on both sides. It is true that the wages of the "daily girl"
do not equal, in actual money, those of the factory worker, neither does she obtain the Sat.u.r.day half-holiday or the whole of Sunday free.
But to set against this she receives her entire board and, with a kindly mistress, is not tied down to staying her full time on days when she is "forward" with her work.
The life of the young "daily girl," if her employer is a conscientious woman, need not be hard nor unpleasant; very little harder and no more unpleasant than the lot of the young "lady" who is paying from L60 to L80 per annum to learn cookery, laundry and housework at a school of domestic economy. Properly conducted, the relations between employer and employee, "mistress" and "servant," are those of mutual aid. Such relations _may_ be, and too often _are_, those of an inefficient little drudge for a "mistress" almost equally ignorant and inefficient. But when the employer is an intelligent woman with a sense of justice (I prefer a sense of justice to sentimental theories about sisterhood--people do not always treat their sisters justly) the weekly money payment and food will be but a small part of the girl"s wage. In addition she will receive a training that will equip her for the "higher" branches of domestic service, or for homemaking on her own account. Not every girl has the sense to appreciate this when she gets it, nor the intelligence to profit by it; while it is certainly rather trying to the employer when the girl is "all agog" to "better herself" as soon as she has gained a bare smattering of how to do certain things properly. But all this is "the fortune of war." Some girls never cease to be grateful to their first teachers and leave them reluctantly, while other girls never realise that they have anything to be grateful for. When grat.i.tude and affection come they are pleasant to receive. But the motive power of the really conscientious woman is not the expectation of grat.i.tude or affection.
A word to the unconventional homemaker. The young "general" is a bird of pa.s.sage. Age and experience bring with them the necessity of earning more, and if her first employer cannot periodically raise the girl"s wages the latter must in time seek better paid employment, probably with a mistress who is not unconventional. It is unkind, therefore, to refrain from teaching the girl how she will be expected to do things in the ordinary conventional house. I do not mean that the employer ought to slavishly run her home on conventional lines for the instruction of her "help." But it is kinder, for instance, to help a girl regard a cap and ap.r.o.n with good-humoured indifference, or as on a par with a nurse"s uniform, rather than as "a badge of servitude." It is kinder, too, to show her that it is not only "servants" who are expected to address their employers as "Sir" and "Ma"am," but that well-mannered young people in all conditions of life can be found who use this form of address to persons older than themselves. I do not suggest for one moment that any attempt should be made to delude a girl into the belief that she will not be expected, in conventional households, to behave with equal deference to persons younger than herself. Such deception would be unpardonable. But it is anything but kind to allow a young girl to drift into careless and familiar habits of speech bound to lead to dismissal for "impudence"
in her next "place." There is a type of person, for example, who seems to believe that, in order to show that he is "as good as anybody else," it is necessary to be rude and familiar. But good manners are not necessarily a.s.sociated with servility. And it is no kindness to help to unfit a girl for getting her living in the world as it is.
It may seem that, in this article, I am more concerned for the "hired help" than the homemaker for whom I am ostensibly writing. But the points I have touched on are just those about which I know many thoughtful women are puzzled. I cannot solve their individual problems for them, of course, I can only just barely indicate some of the thoughts that have come to me on a subject that is so intimately bound up with the whole of our present unsatisfactory social and economic conditions that it cannot be adequately discussed in a little tract upon domestic economy.
FLORENCE DANIEL.
THE CARE OF CUPBOARDS.
There are three methods in general use of caring for cupboards. Some housewives prefer their cupboard shelves of bare wood, to be well scrubbed with soap and water at the periodical "turn-out." Others cover all shelves with white American cloth, which only needs wiping over with a wet house-flannel; while still others prefer to dispense with the necessity for wetting the shelves and line them with white kitchen paper, or even clean newspaper, which is periodically renewed.
Of the three methods I prefer the last, with the addition of a good scrubbing at the spring clean. The weekly or fortnightly scrubbing is apt to result in permanently damp cupboards, unless they can be left empty to dry for a longer time than is usually convenient. The use of American cloth is perhaps the easiest, most labour-saving method, but the cloth soon gets superficially marked and worn long before its real usefulness is impaired, so that the cupboard shelves never look quite so neat as after scrubbing or relining with white paper.
The larder should be thoroughly "turned out" once a week. Once a fortnight is enough for the store-cupboard and for china cupboards in daily use. While cupboards in which superfluous china and other non-perishable goods are stored, and that are seldom opened, need not be touched oftener than once or twice a year.
In very small houses one cupboard often must house both china and groceries, thus combining the offices of storeroom and china cupboard.
The larder, strictly speaking, is for the food consumed daily. But when larder and store-cupboard have to be combined, the groceries may be packed away on the upper shelves, which can be tidied once a fortnight; but the shelves doing duty for the larder proper should never be left for longer than a week.
Nothing betrays the careless housewife like an ill-smelling larder.
All food should be examined daily and kept well covered. Hot food should be allowed to cool before storing in the larder. In the summer time special precautions must be taken against flies, all receptacles for food which are minus well-fitting lids being covered with wire-gauze covers or clean b.u.t.ter muslin. If the shelves are lined with paper, care should be taken at the weekly change to examine the wood for stains caused by spilt food that has penetrated through the paper. These should not be just left and covered over, but well washed off. With ordinary carefulness, however, they need not occur.
F.D.
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