Do not go through the world talking poverty and asking every one you deal with to show you special consideration because you are "poor" and "unfortunate."
If you do this with an idea of saving a few dollars here and there, you will always have to do it, because you are creating poverty conditions by your constant a.s.sertions.
It is a curious fact that the people who are always demanding consideration in money matters demand the best that is going at the same time.
I have known a woman to make a plea for cut prices in a boarding house because she was so poor, yet she wanted the sunniest room and the best location the house afforded.
It is the charity patients who make the most complaint of a physician"s skill or a nurse"s attention.
If you cannot afford to do certain things, or buy certain objects, don"t. But when you decide you must, decide, too, that you will pay the price, and make no whining plea of poverty.
There are two extremes of people in the world, one as distasteful as the other. One is represented by the man who boasts of the costliness of every possession, and invites the whole world to behold his opulence and expenditure.
His clothes, his house, his servants, his habits, seem no different to the observer from his neighbor"s, yet, according to his story, they cost ten times the amount.
The other extreme is the man who dresses well, lives well, enjoys all the comforts and pleasures of his a.s.sociates, yet talks poverty continually, and expects the entire community to show him consideration in consequence.
Another thing to avoid is the role of the chronically injured person.
We all know him.
He has a continual grievance. He has been cheated, abused, wronged, insulted, disappointed and deceived. We wonder how or why he has managed to exist, as we listen to the story of his troubles.
No one ever treats him fairly, either in business or social life.
Everybody is ungrateful, unkind, selfish, and he could not be made to believe that these experiences were of his own making.
All of us meet with occasional blows from fate, in the form of insults, or ingrat.i.tude, or trickery from an unexpected source.
But if we get nothing else but those disappointing experiences from life, we may rest a.s.sured the fault lies somewhere in ourselves.
We are not sending out the right kind of mental stuff, or we would get better returns.
You never can tell what your thoughts will do In bringing you hate or love, For thoughts are things, and their airy wings Are swift as a carrier dove.
They follow the law of the universe-- Each thing must create its kind, And they speed o"er the track to bring you back Whatever went out from your mind.
In the main, we must of necessity get from humanity what we give to it.
If we question our ability to win friends or love, people will also question it.
If we doubt our own judgment and discretion in business, others will doubt it, and the shrewd and unprincipled will take the opportunity given by our doubts of ourselves, to spring upon us.
If in consequence we distrust every person we meet, we create an unwholesome and unfortunate atmosphere about ourselves, which will bring to us the unworthy and deceitful. Stand firm in the universe.
Believe in yourself. Believe in others.
If you make a mistake, consider it only an incident.
If some one wrongs you, cheats, misuses or insults you, let it pa.s.s as one of the lessons you had to learn, but do not imagine that you are selected by fate for only such lessons. Keep wholesome, hopeful and sympathetic with the world at large, whatever individuals may do.
Expect life to use you better every year, and it will not disappoint you in the long run. For life is what we make it.
Eternity
Do you know what a wonderfully complicated thing a human being is?
Every feature, every portion of your body, every motion you make, reflects your mental organization.
I know a woman past middle life who has always been on the opposite side of every question discussed in her presence.
She was agnostic with the orthodox, reverential with atheists, liberal with the narrow, bigoted with the liberal.
Whatever belief any one expressed on any subject, she invariably took the other extreme. She loved to disagree with her fellow-men. It was her pastime.
Now, to walk with that woman in silence is merely to carry on a wordless argument.
You cannot regulate your steps so they will harmonize with hers. She will be just ahead or just behind you, and if you want to turn to the left, she pulls to the right. A promenade with her is more exhausting than a day"s labor.
She is not conscious of it, and would think anyone very unreasonable and unjust who told her of her peculiarities.
I know a woman who all her life has been looking afar for happiness and peace and content, and has never found any of them, because she did not look in her own soul.
She was a restless girl, and she married, believing in domestic life lay the goal of her dreams. But she was not happy there, and sighed for freedom. She wanted to move, and did move, once, twice, thrice, to different points of the United States. She was discontented with each change. She is to-day possessed of all comforts and luxuries which life can afford, yet she is the same restless soul. She likes to read, but it is always the book which she does not possess which she craves.
If she is in the library with shelves book-filled, she goes into the garret and hunts in old boxes for a book or a paper which has been cast aside.
If she is in a picture gallery, she wants to go to the window and look out on the street, but when she is on the street it bores her, and she longs to go in the house.
If a member of the family is absent, she gets no enjoyment out of the society of those at home; yet when that absent one returns her mind strays elsewhere, seeking some imagined happiness not found here.
I wonder if such souls ever find it, even in the spirit realm, or if they go on there seeking and always seeking something just beyond. It is a great gift to learn to enjoy the present--to get all there is out of it, and to think of to-day as a piece of eternity. Begin now to teach yourself this great art if you have not thought of it before. To be able to enjoy heaven, one must learn first to enjoy earth.
Morning Influences
What do you think about the very first thing in the morning?
Your thoughts during the first half-hour of the morning will greatly influence the entire day. You may not realize this, but it is nevertheless a fact.
If you set out with worry, and depression, and bitterness of soul toward fate or man, you are giving the key note to a day of discords and misfortunes.
If you think peace, hope and happiness, you are sounding a note of harmony and success.
The result may not be felt at once, but it will not fail to make itself evident eventually.
Control your morning thoughts. You can do it.
The first moment on waking, no matter what your mood, say to yourself: "I will get all the comfort and pleasure possible out of this day, and I will do something to add to the measure of the world"s happiness or well-being. I will control myself when tempted to be irritable or unhappy, I will look for the bright side of every event."