What pa.s.sions, what hopes, what joys, what sorrows, are in the hearts of that hurrying, worrying crowd.
What noise this din of traffic makes; what activity man has stirred up.
A picture, a drama, a tragedy, a comedy--all these I see in the human ants that run along below the hive where I sit and write these lines.
The phone rings and my little Nancy Lou"s voice says, "Daddy, will you please bring me a pencil and a tablet with lines on it."
So I must needs stop this, whatever you may call it, and push through the crowd to get that tablet with "lines on it" for my Nancy Lou; and there is some feeling of happiness and content and peace in Daddy"s heart as he lays down his pen, for Daddy is going Home, and that word means a lot in his little family, where they all say "Daddy" instead of Papa or Father.
6.
[Sidenote: Wasted Energy.]
It is hard enough to do duty once, but doubly hard when you antic.i.p.ate mentally everything you have to do to-morrow. This doing things twice is a habit easily acquired if you don"t watch out, and it means wasted energy.
I have just read the experience of a housewife who was resting on a couch and reading. Her eye caught sight of a book lying on the floor across the room.
Instantly her mindometer, if I may coin a word, registered, "When you get up, pick up that book."
She went on reading, but her mind was not on the magazine she held, but on that book on the floor.
So obsessed did she become that she was miserable until she got up and picked up the book.
I was talking with a woman who was resting on her porch. Her day"s work was over. She was dressed for the afternoon. Everything in the home was neat, sweet, clean and tidy. All was serene but her face, and that was the window through which I saw worry working overtime.
By strategy I learned the trouble, and here is her story: "To-morrow a lot of fruit will be ready to preserve. I am worrying where I shall put it. My fruit closet is full."
[Sidenote: Doing Things Twice.]
The woman had every reason to say to herself, "Sufficient unto the day,"
yet she was doing the preserving mentally to-day and to-morrow she would do the work physically. A tired mind is harder to rest than a tired body, so we must nip this advance mental work in the bud.
We have all been mentally obsessed with worrying about the things we were going to take on our trip; then worrying over the routine of our work when we should return from our trip.
If the housewife looks over her week"s work and washes the dishes, makes the beds, cooks the meals, dresses the children, mends the clothes, and does all these things in her imagination before she does them in reality, she is indeed a hard working woman.
It"s all right to plan your work; that"s economy in mental expenditure, for it simplifies, systematizes, and saves work.
[Sidenote: Planning is Efficiency.]
Plan your work in advance, but do not keep your mind on the plans until the work is done. When you have planned, then close the mental book of to-morrow"s duty, and turn to pleasures, rest, relaxation and enjoyment of to-day.
It is to get a definite, different thought habit fixed that I ask you to give me these few minutes each day, so that we may consider various phases of life, science, pleasure, morals and mental refreshment.
True, we can only have a fleeting look at things, but we"ll get enough, I hope, to freshen your minds, change the humdrum, and elicit interest in things. Maybe these heart-to-heart, confidential chats will help us and keep us from going through the mental motions of to-morrow"s physical work.
If these evening talks interest you, help clear your vision, help cheer you, help rest you, then they are good for you, and because they help you, they certainly benefit me and make me very happy, because happiness comes from doing something for others.
I write as the mood strikes me, or as a phase of life comes before me, or as an idea strikes in and just won"t let go until I grasp my pen and let the words flow.
I mean this book to be human, and not a studied literary effort.
I want to reach you right there alone in the room where you are reading this, and I want the suggestions, the good, the help, to soak in, and I want you to pa.s.s the good you get to your brother; you won"t lose a bit by doing so.
7.
"She is all right--her only trouble is her NERVES." How often we hear that and how little does the person with steady nerves appreciate the tortures of "nerves."
[Sidenote: About Nerves.]
A cut, a bruise, a headache, or any of the physical ailments can be quickly cured. Nature will mend the break, but tired, worn, stretched, abused nerves take time to restore. These nerve ailments call for most vigorous mental treatment.
Neurasthenia means debilitated or prostrated nerves and it shows itself first of all by worry. Worry means the inability to relax the attention from a definite fear or fancied hard luck. Worry leads to many physical and mental disorders.
Left alone this worry stage develops into an acute state and brings with it nervous prostration, and sometimes a complete collapse of the will power.
Before the acute stage of neurasthenia is reached, there is noticed "brain f.a.g," and brain f.a.g is nature"s warning signal calling upon you to take notice and change your mental habits.
Worry sometimes develops into hysteria; again it takes the form of hypochondria or chronic blues. The hypochondriac has a chronic, morbid anxiety about personal health and personal welfare. Frequently this state is accompanied by melancholia.
Melancholia is the fork in the road. One turning leads to incurable insanity, the other to curable melancholia.
Right here is where heroic action is needed by the sufferer.
[Sidenote: Cure the Worry Habit.]
Here is where the sufferer must exert his maximum will power, and change completely his mental and physical habits and his surroundings.
Occupation, changed habits, taking in of confidence, faith and courage thoughts--these changes are necessary to the victim of melancholia, or he will shatter his health on the danger rocks and go to pieces.
Melancholia is an ailment that offers a good chance for Christian Science. Mental suggestion, the powerful personality of a friend, and the personal help such a friend can give by counsel, example and suggestion, are all helps.
I have abundant evidence that melancholia sufferers can be restored to peace, efficiency and poise, by proper thought direction, and by proper physical employment.
"Pep," which has princ.i.p.ally to do with mental efficiency, definitely lays down rules and practical suggestions for the employment of the mind and body. I have letters and verbal proofs in quant.i.ty proving the efficiency of those rules and suggestions.
So wonderful have been the results, so numerous the recoveries, that the testimonials, if published, would make the fake nerve tonic manufacturer die of envy.
[Sidenote: The Importance of Nerves.]
"Only your nerves." I cannot understand why the word, only, is used. It makes it appear that nerves are of minor importance. Nerves are less understood than anything in the human anatomy and they are harder to understand.