This was an immediate giveaway. My parents do not describe their friends by their Christian names. It is always Una Alconbury, Audrey Coles, Brian Enderby: "You know David Ricketts, darling - married to Anthea Ricketts, who"s in the Lifeboat." It"s a gesture to the fact that they know in their hearts I have no idea who Mavis Enderby is, even though they"re going to talk about Brian and Mavis Enderby for the next forty minutes as if I"ve known them intimately since I was four.
I knew straight away that Julian would not turn out to be involved in any Lifeboat luncheons, nor would he have a wife who was in any Lifeboats, Rotaries or Friends of St. George"s. I sensed also that she had met him in Portugal, before the trouble with Dad, and he might well turn out to be not so much Julian but Julio. I sensed that, let"s face it, Julio was was the trouble with Dad. the trouble with Dad.
I confronted her with this hunch. She denied it. She even came out with some elaborately concocted tale about "Julian" b.u.mping into her in the Marble Arch Marks and Spencer, making her drop her new Le Creuset terrine dish on her foot and taking her for a coffee in Selfridges from which sprang a firm platonic friendship based entirely on department store coffee shops.
Why, when people are leaving their partners because they"re having an affair with someone else, do they think it will seem better to pretend there is no one else involved? Do they think it will be less hurtful for their partners to think they just walked out because they couldn"t stand them any more and then had the good fortune to meet some tall Omar Sharif-figure with a gentleman"s handbag two weeks afterwards while the ex-partner is spending his evenings bursting into tears at the sight of the toothbrush mug? It"s like those people who invent a lie as an excuse rather than the truth, even when the truth is better than the lie.
I once heard my friend Simon canceling a date with a girl - on whom he was really keen - because he had a spot with a yellow head just to the right of his nose, and because, owing to a laundry crisis he had gone to work in a ludicrous late-seventies jacket, a.s.suming he could pick his normal jacket up from the cleaner"s at lunchtime, but the cleaners hadn"t done it.
He took it into his head, therefore, to tell the girl he couldn"t see her because his sister had turned up unexpectedly for the evening and he had to entertain her, adding wildly that he also had to watch some videos for work before the morning; at which point the girl reminded him that he"d told her he didn"t have any brothers or sisters and suggested he come and watch the videos at her place while she cooked him supper. However, there were no work videos to take round and watch, so he had to construct a further cobweb of lies. The incident culminated with the girl, convinced he was having an affair with someone else when it was only their second date, chucking him, and Simon spending the evening getting hammered alone with his spot, wearing his seventies jacket.
I tried to explain to Mum that she wasn"t telling the truth, but she was so suffused with l.u.s.t that she had lost sight of, well, everything.
"You"re really becoming very cynical and suspicious, darling." she said. "Julio" - aha! ahahahahahaha! - "is just a friend. I just need some s.p.a.ce s.p.a.ce."
So, it transpired, in order to oblige, Dad is moving into the Alconburys" dead granny"s flat at the bottom of their garden.
Tuesday 21 February
V. tired. Dad has taken to ringing up several times in the night, just to talk.
Wednesday 22 February
9st, alcohol units 2, cigarettes 9, fat units 8 (unexpectedly repulsive notion: never before faced reality of lard splurging from bottom and thighs under skin. Must revert to calorie counting tomorrow).
Tom was completely right. I have been so preoccupied with Mum and Dad, and so tired from taking Dad"s distraught phone calls, I have hardly been noticing Daniel at all: with the miraculous result that he has been all over me. I made a complete a.r.s.e of myself today, though. I got in the lift to go out for a sandwich and found Daniel in there with Simon from Marketing, talking about footballers being arrested for throwing matches. "Have you heard about this, Bridget?" said Daniel.
"Oh yes," I lied, groping for an opinion. "Actually, I think it"s all rather petty. I know it"s a thuggish way to behave, but as long as they didn"t actually set light to anyone I don"t see what all the fuss is about."
Simon looked at me as if I was mad and Daniel stared for a moment and then burst out laughing. He just laughed and laughed till he and Simon got out and then turned back and said, "Marry me," as the doors closed between us. Hmmmm. Simon looked at me as if I was mad and Daniel stared for a moment and then burst out laughing. He just laughed and laughed till he and Simon got out and then turned back and said, "Marry me," as the doors closed between us. Hmmmm.
Thursday 23 February
8st 13 (If only could stay under 9st. and not keep bobbing up and down like drowning corpse - drowning in fat), alcohol units 2, cigarettes 17 (pre-s.h.a.g nerves - understandable), calories 775 (last-ditch attempt to get down to 8st 7 before tomorrow).
8 p.m. Blimey. Computer messaging somehow whipped itself up to fever pitch. At 6 o"clock I resolutely put my coat on and left, only to meet Daniel getting into my lift on the floor below. There we were, just him and me, caught in a ma.s.sive electrical-charge field, pulled together irresistibly, like a pair of magnets. Then suddenly the lift stopped and we broke apart, panting, as Simon from Marketing got in wearing a hideous beige raincoat over his fat frame. "Bridget," he said smirkily, as I involuntarily straightened my skirt, "you look as if you"ve been caught playing with matches." Blimey. Computer messaging somehow whipped itself up to fever pitch. At 6 o"clock I resolutely put my coat on and left, only to meet Daniel getting into my lift on the floor below. There we were, just him and me, caught in a ma.s.sive electrical-charge field, pulled together irresistibly, like a pair of magnets. Then suddenly the lift stopped and we broke apart, panting, as Simon from Marketing got in wearing a hideous beige raincoat over his fat frame. "Bridget," he said smirkily, as I involuntarily straightened my skirt, "you look as if you"ve been caught playing with matches."
As I left the building Daniel popped out after me and asked me to have dinner with him tomorrow. Yessss!
Midnight. Ugh. Completely exhausted. Surely it is not normal to be revising for a date as if it were a job interview? Suspect Daniel"s enormously well read brain may turn out to be something of a nuisance if things develop. Maybe I should have fallen for someone younger and mindless who would cook for me, wash all my clothes and agree with everything I say. Since leaving work I have nearly slipped a disc, wheezing through a step aerobics cla.s.s, scratched my naked body for seven minutes with a stiff brush; cleaned the flat; filled the fudge, plucked my eyebrows, skimmed the papers and the Ultimate s.e.x Guide Ultimate s.e.x Guide, put the washing in and waxed my own legs, since it was too late to book an appointment. Ended up kneeling on a towel trying to pull off a wax strip firmly stuck to the back of my calf while watching Newsnight Newsnight in an effort to drum up some interesting opinions about things. My back hurts, my head aches and my legs are bright red and covered in lumps of wax. in an effort to drum up some interesting opinions about things. My back hurts, my head aches and my legs are bright red and covered in lumps of wax.
Wise people will say Daniel should like me just as I am, but I am a child of Cosmopolitan Cosmopolitan culture, have been traumatized by super-models and too many quizzes and know that neither my personality nor my body is up to it if left to its own devices. I can"t take the pressure. I am going to cancel and spend the evening eating doughnuts in a cardigan with egg on it. culture, have been traumatized by super-models and too many quizzes and know that neither my personality nor my body is up to it if left to its own devices. I can"t take the pressure. I am going to cancel and spend the evening eating doughnuts in a cardigan with egg on it.
Sat.u.r.day 25 February
8st 10 (miracle: s.e.x proved indeed to be best form of exercise),alcohol units 0, cigarettes 0, calories 200 (at last have found the secret of not eating: simply replace food with s.e.x). the secret of not eating: simply replace food with s.e.x).
6 p.m. Oh joy. Have spent the day in a state I can only describe as s.h.a.g-drunkenness, mooning about the flat, smiling, picking things up and putting them down again. It was so lovely. The only down points were 1) immediately after it was over Daniel said, "d.a.m.n. I meant to take the car into the Citroen garage," and 2) when I got up to go to the bathroom he pointed out that I had a pair of tights stuck to the back of my calf. Oh joy. Have spent the day in a state I can only describe as s.h.a.g-drunkenness, mooning about the flat, smiling, picking things up and putting them down again. It was so lovely. The only down points were 1) immediately after it was over Daniel said, "d.a.m.n. I meant to take the car into the Citroen garage," and 2) when I got up to go to the bathroom he pointed out that I had a pair of tights stuck to the back of my calf.
But as the rosy clouds begin to disperse, I begin to feel alarm. What now? No plans were made. Suddenly I realize I am waiting for the phone again. How can it be that the situation between the s.e.xes after a first night remains so agonizingly imbalanced? Feel as if I have just sat an exam and must wait for my results.
11 p.m. Oh G.o.d. Why hasn"t Daniel rung? Are we going out now, or what? How come my mum can slip easily from one relationship to another and I can"t even get the simplest thing off the ground. Maybe their generation is just better at getting on with relationships? Maybe they don"t mooch about being all paranoid and diffident. Maybe it helps if you"ve never read a self-help book in your life. Oh G.o.d. Why hasn"t Daniel rung? Are we going out now, or what? How come my mum can slip easily from one relationship to another and I can"t even get the simplest thing off the ground. Maybe their generation is just better at getting on with relationships? Maybe they don"t mooch about being all paranoid and diffident. Maybe it helps if you"ve never read a self-help book in your life.
Sunday 26 February
9st, alcohol units 5 (drowning sorrows), cigarettes 23 (fumigating sorrows), calories 3856 (smothering sorrows in fat-duvet).
Awake, alone, to find myself imagining my mother in bed with Julio Consumed with repulsion at vision of parental, or rather demi-parental s.e.x; outrage on behalf of father; heady, selfish optimism at example of another thirty years of unbridled pa.s.sion ahead of me (not unrelated to frequent thoughts of Goldie Hawn and Susan Sarandon); but mainly extreme sense of jealousy of failure and foolishness at being in bed alone on Sunday morning while my mother aged over sixty is probably just about to do it for the second . . . Oh my G.o.d. No. I can"t bear to think about it.
MARCH
Severe Birthday-Related Thirties Panic
Sat.u.r.day 4 March
9st (what is point of dieting for whole of Feb when end up exactly same weight at start of March as start of Feb? Huh. Am going to stop getting weighed and counting things every day as no sodding point).
My mother has become a force I no longer recognize. She burst into my flat this morning as I sat slumped in my dressing gown, sulkily painting my toenails and watching the preamble to the racing.
"Darling, can I leave these here for a few hours?" she trilled, flinging an armful of carrier bags down and heading for my bedroom.
Minutes later, in a fit of mild curiosity, I s...o...b..d after her to see what she was doing. She was sitting in front of the mirror in an expensive-looking coffee-colored bra-slip, mascara-ing her eyelashes with her mouth wide open (necessity of open mouth during mascara application great unexplained mystery of nature).
"Don"t you think you should get dressed, darling?"
She looked stunning: skin clear, hair shining. I caught sight of myself in the mirror. I really should have taken my makeup off last night. One side of my hair was plastered to my head, the other sticking out in a series of peaks and horns. It is as if the hairs on my head have a life of their own, behaving perfectly sensibly all day, then waiting till I drop off to sleep and starting to run and jump about childishly, saying, "Now what shall we do?"
"You know," said Mum, dabbing Givenchy II in her cleavage, "all these years your father"s made such a fuss about doing the bills and the taxes - as if that excused him from thirty years of washing-up. Well, the tax return was overdue, so I thought, sod it, I"ll do it myself. Obviously I couldn"t make head nor tail of it so I rang up the tax office. The man was really quite overbearing with me. "Really, Mrs. Jones," he said. I simply can"t see what the difficulty is." I said, "Listen, can you you make a brioche?" He took the point, talked me through it and we had it done inside fifteen minutes. Anyway, he"s taking me out to lunch today. A tax man! Imagine!" make a brioche?" He took the point, talked me through it and we had it done inside fifteen minutes. Anyway, he"s taking me out to lunch today. A tax man! Imagine!"
"What?" I stammered, grabbing at the door frame. "What about Julio?"
"Just because I"m "friends" with Julio doesn"t mean I can"t have other "fiends"," "she said sweetly, slipping into a yellow two-piece. "Do you like this? Just bought it. Super lemon, don"t you think? Anyway, must fly. I"m meeting him in Debenhams coffee shop at one fifteen."
After she"d gone I ate a bit of muesli out of the packet with a spoon and finished off the dregs of wine in the fudge.
I know what her secret is: she"s discovered power. She has power over Dad: he wants her back. She has power over Julio, and the tax man, and everyone is sensing her power and wanting a bit of it, which makes her even more irresistible. So all I"ve got to do is find someone or something to have power over and then . . . oh G.o.d. I haven"t even got power over my own hair.
I am so depressed. Daniel, though perfectly chatty, friendly, even flirty all week, has given me no hint as to what is going on between us, as though it is perfectly normal to sleep with one of your colleagues and just leave it at that. Work - once merely an annoying nuisance - has become an agonizing torture. I have major trauma every time he disappears for lunch or puts his coat on to go at end of day: to where? with whom? whom?
Perpetua seems to have managed to dump all her work on to me and spends the entire time in full telephonic auto-witter to Arabella or Piggy, discussing the half-million-pound Fulham flat she"s about to buy with Hugo. "Yars. No. Yars. No, I quite quite agree. But the question is: Does one want to pay another thirty grand for a fourth bedroom?" agree. But the question is: Does one want to pay another thirty grand for a fourth bedroom?"
At 4:15 on Friday evening Sharon rang me in the office. "Are you coming out with me and Jude tomorrow?"
"Er . . . " I silently panicked, thinking, Surely Daniel will ask to see me this weekend before he leaves the office? Surely Daniel will ask to see me this weekend before he leaves the office?
"Call me if he doesn"t ask," said Shazzer drily after a pause.
At 5:45 saw Daniel with his coat on heading out of the door. My traumatized expression must have shamed even him because he smiled shiftily, nodded at the computer screen and shot out.
Sure enough, Message Pending was flashing. I pressed RMS. It said:
Message JonesHave a good weekend. Pip pip.Cleave
Miserably, I picked up the phone and dialed Sharon.
"What time are we meeting tomorrow?" I mumbled sheepishly.
"Eight-thirty. Cafe Rouge. Don"t worry, we love you. Tell him to b.u.g.g.e.r off from me. Emotional f.u.c.kwit."
2 a.m. Argor sworeal brilleve with Shazzan Jude. Dun stupid care about Daniel stupid prat. Feel sicky though. Oops. Argor sworeal brilleve with Shazzan Jude. Dun stupid care about Daniel stupid prat. Feel sicky though. Oops.
Sunday 5 March