Their attention being directed to other things, they were seldom troubled about their food, and became almost indifferent to what was placed on the table. Benjamin said, in his manhood, on referring to this subject: "I am so un.o.bservant of it, that to this day I can scarcely tell, a few hours after dinner, of what dishes it consisted.
This has been a great convenience to me in travelling, where my companions have been sometimes very unhappy for the want of a suitable gratification of their more delicate, because better instructed tastes and appet.i.tes."
The guests of Mr. Franklin being usually intelligent, their conversation was instructive to the children, who acquired thereby many valuable items of information. The condition and prospects of the country, the oppressive measures of the English government, and the means of future prosperity, were among the topics which they heard discussed. Although it seems like a small, unimportant influence to bring to bear upon tender childhood, yet it left its mark upon their characters. They had more interest in the public questions of the day, and more general intelligence in consequence.
It is related of the Washburne family, of which four or five brothers occupy posts of political distinction in the United States, that in their early life their father"s house was open to ministers, and was sometimes called "the minister"s hotel." Mr. Washburne was a great friend of this cla.s.s, and enjoyed their society much. At all times nearly, some one of the ministerial fraternity would be stopping there. His sons were thus brought into their society, and they listened to long discussions upon subjects of a scientific, political, and religious character, though public measures received a large share of attention. The boys acquired some valuable information by listening to their remarks, and this created a desire to read and learn more; and so they were started off in a career that bids fair to reflect honour both upon themselves and their country. Their early advantages were few, but the conversation of educated men, upon important subjects, laid the foundation of their eminence in public life.
"You must give heed to little things," Mr. Franklin would frequently say to his sons, when they appeared to think that he was too particular about some things, such as behaviour at the table, "although nothing can really be considered small that is important. It is of far more consequence how you behave, than what you wear."
Sometimes, if the meal was unusually plain (and it was never extravagant), he would say, "Many people are too particular about their victuals. They destroy their health by eating too much and too rich food. Plain, simple, wholesome fare is all that nature requires, and young persons who are brought up in this way will be best off in the end."
Such kind of remarks frequently greeted the ears of young Benjamin; so that, as we have already seen, he grew up without caring much about the kind of food which he ate. Perhaps here is to be found the origin of those rigidly temperate principles in both eating and drinking, for which he was distinguished all through his life. In his manhood, he wrote and talked upon the subject, and reduced his principles to practice. When he worked as a printer in England, his fellow-labourers were hard drinkers of strong beer, really believing that it was necessary to make them competent to endure fatigue. They were astonished to see a youth like Benjamin able to excel the smartest of them in the printing-office, while he drank only cold water, and they sneeringly called him "the Water-American."
The temperate habits which Benjamin formed in his youth were the more remarkable, because there were no temperance societies at that time, and it was generally supposed to be necessary to use intoxicating drinks. The evils of intemperance were not viewed with so much abhorrence as they are now, and the project of removing them from society was not entertained for a moment. Reformatory movements, in this respect, did not commence until nearly one hundred years after the time referred to. Yet Benjamin was fully persuaded in his youth that he ought to be temperate in all things. Probably there was not one of his a.s.sociates who believed as he did on the subject. But he began early to think for himself, and this, with the excellent discipline of his wise and sagacious father, caused him to live in advance of those around him. It is not probable that he adopted the principle of total abstinence, and abstained entirely from the use of intoxicating drinks; but he was not in the habit of using it as a daily, indispensable beverage.
That the practice of Benjamin"s father, to allow no finding fault with the food at the table, and to lead the way in profitable conversation, was a good one, we think no one can deny. It was very different, however, from much of the table-talk that is heard in families.
Conversation is frequently brisk and lively, but it often runs in this way:--
"I don"t want any of that, I don"t like it," exclaimed Henry. "I should think you might have a better dinner than this."
"What would you have if you could get it,--roast chicken and plum pudding?" inquires his mother, laughing, instead of reproving him for his error.
"I would have something I can eat. You know I don"t like that, and never did."
"Well, it does boys good, sometimes, to eat what they don"t like, especially such particular ones as you are," says his father.
"I shan"t eat what I don"t like, at any rate," continues Henry, "I shall go hungry first."
"There, now," added his father, "let me hear no more complaint about your food. You are scarcely ever suited with your victuals."
"May I have some ----?" calling for some article not on the table.
"If you will hold your tongue, and get it yourself, you can have it."
"And let me have some, too!" shouts James, a younger brother; "I don"t like this, neither. May I have some, father?"
"And I too," said Jane, setting up her plea. "I must have some if they do."
In this way the table-talk proceeds, until fretting, scolding, crying, make up the sum total of the conversation, and family joys are embittered for the remainder of the day. Finding fault with food is the occasion of all the unhappiness.
Let the reader ask himself how much he has contributed to make conversation at the table proper and instructive. Has he thought more of the quality of his food than of anything else at the family board?
If the review of the past reveals an error in this respect, let him learn a valuable lesson from this part of Benjamin Franklin"s life.
Though it may seem to be an unimportant matter, accept the testimony of Benjamin himself, and believe that it leaves its impress upon the future character.
CHAPTER VII.
CHOOSING A TRADE.
"You will have to be a tallow-chandler, after all, when your brother gets married and goes away," said one of Benjamin"s a.s.sociates to him.
He had heard that an older son of Mr. Franklin, who worked at the business with his father, was about to be married, and would remove to Rhode Island, and set up business for himself.
"Not I," replied Benjamin. "I shall work at it no longer than I am obliged to do."
"That may be, and you be obliged to work at it all your life. It will be, as your father says, till you are twenty-one years old."
"I know that; but my father does not desire to have me work in his shop against my wishes--only till I can find some other suitable employment. I would rather go to sea than anything."
"Are your parents not willing that you should go to sea?"
"No; they won"t hear a word about it. I have talked with them till it is of no use. They seem to think that I should be shipwrecked, or that something else would happen, to prevent my return."
"Then, if you can"t go to sea, and you won"t be a tallow-chandler, what can you do?"
"I hardly know myself; but almost anything is preferable to this greasy business. If people had no more light than the candles I should make, unless I was obliged, they would have a pretty dark time of it."
"I don"t think it is a very disagreeable business," continued his companion. "It is quite easy work, certainly,--much more to my liking than sawing wood, and some other things I could name."
"It may be easy," replied Benjamin; "but it is dirty and simple. It requires no ingenuity to do all that I do. Almost any simpleton could cut wicks and fill candle-moulds. A fellow who can"t do it couldn"t tell which side his bread is b.u.t.tered. _I_ prefer to do something that requires thought and ingenuity."
"There is something in that; but I guess it will take all your ingenuity to work yourself out of the tallow-chandler"s business,"
responded his friend, rather dryly.
This conversation occurred one day in the shop, when Mr. Franklin was out. But just at this point he returned, and soon after the young visitor left. Benjamin was not acquainted with all his father"s plans, and he had actually proceeded further than he was aware of towards introducing him into another calling, as the following conversation with Mrs. F., on the previous evening, will show--
"I have resolved to find some other employment for Benjamin at once,"
said he; "as John is to be married so soon, he will be able to render me but little more a.s.sistance, and I must have some one to take his place."
"Are you satisfied," inquired Mrs. Franklin, "that Benjamin cannot be prevailed upon to take the place of John in your shop?"
"Oh, yes! he is so dissatisfied with the business, that I fear he will yet go to sea, unless his attention is soon turned to some other pursuit. Then, if he has a taste for any other honourable pursuit, I am willing that he should follow it. He would not accomplish much at candle-making with his present feelings."
"Have you anything in view for him to do?" asked Mrs. F.
"Not positively. I want to learn, if I can, whether he has taste and tact for any particular business. If he has, he will accomplish more in that. I don"t believe in compelling a boy to follow a pursuit for which he has no relish, unless it is where nothing else offers."
"I think it is very necessary for boys to have a definite trade," said Mrs. F.; "they are more likely to succeed than those who are changing often from one thing to another. "A rolling stone gathers no moss," is an old saying."
"That is the princ.i.p.al reason for my plan to introduce him into some other business soon. No one feels the importance of this more than I do, and I have pretty thoroughly imbued the mind of Benjamin with the same views. I think he has a desire to follow a definite calling, though now his taste seems to draw him towards a seafaring life."
Benjamin could have appreciated this last remark, if it had been uttered in his hearing. For he had listened to so much counsel upon this point, that he had no desire to run from one thing to another.
And he continued to cherish this feeling. When he became a man, he wrote the following maxims, among the many of which he was the author:--
"He that hath a trade hath an estate."
"He that hath a calling hath an office of honour."